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  1. Mary Crumpton, who was a teacher and is now a therapist, describes what her life is like and how she began exploring having more than one partner who are all aware of the presence of each other in her life, yet they all don’t mind. It’s not your average marriage but Mary Crumpton says having a husband, fiancé and two boyfriends works for her – and the men in her life. The 44-year-old from Chorlton, UK is speaking publicly about her relationships in the hope of allowing others to understand people who follow the practice polyamory. Polyamory is having more than one relationship and is different from having more than one spouse – which is illegal in the UK. Mary has a husband, Tim, 43, a fiance, John, 53, and two boyfriends – Michael, 63, and James, 73. She lives with Tim and John and the other two men live nearby. Here Mary, who was a teacher and is now a therapist, describes what life is like and how she began exploring having more than one partner. She decided to embrace polyamory at the age of 29. She said: “I was brought up in quite a traditional home. I had boyfriends and was monogamous. Having more than one partner never crossed my mind. In my twenties I got married and settled down in Chorlton fully intending to be with my husband for life. “At the time I didn’t really question having just one partner. It was normal. I did sometimes have feelings for other people, but I felt guilty about doing so and just took it as a sign that I didn’t love my husband enough. When the marriage didn’t work out, I met someone else, and started a monogamous relationship with him. “The idea that loving more than one person might not make me a terrible human being only dawned on me when, at a pub, I bumped into a person who had more than one partner. I had never come across it before, or the term ‘polyamory’ which means ‘more-than-one love’. I was quite shocked, and curious about how it all worked for them. “My partner was with me when I met the polyamorous person, and he was curious about it too. At the time neither of us considered it for ourselves, but I think the seed had been planted. “A couple of years later, in 2003, I suggested to him that perhaps we might try an open relationship. I was interested to explore the possibility of allowing myself to love more than one person. I think for him it was more about the thought of more than one sexual partner. We were both curious to see how it could work for us. “I took to it immediately. I had a friend that I was already close to and that friendship drifted very naturally into something more. My partner had a similar experience with a friend of his. It was a revelation to me. I quickly realised that I had been ‘wired up’ this way probably all my life – loving more than one person now seems like the most natural thing in the world to me and I can’t imagine being any other way. “For me, it is all about love. Of course, some of my relationships have been sexual, but sex is not the driving force for me. “I am no longer with the partner that I first explored polyamory with, though he and I remain close friends, and he has continued to be polyamorous. “I married one of the people I first dated polyamorously. My husband, Tim, who is 43, and I got together in 2004 and were married in 2013 at Manchester Museum under the Tyrannosaurus Rex. “I have a partner, John, 53, who I have been with since 2011, and who I am planning to ‘marry’ this year. We can’t legally marry, but we are having a full wedding-style commitment ceremony at Chorlton Unitarian church in May.” Both men are straight and have been brought together through Mary. They have all lived together since 2015. “He has a flat a few streets away from my house and I usually stay over at his place once or twice a week, and sometimes he stays at mine. Michael spent Christmas with us and we had a really special day together. “Last but not least, I am with James, 73, who I bonded with while watching football games in the pub together in 2015. My husband and John have no interest in football, so it is nice to have someone to share that interest with. “One of the lovely things about a life with more than one partner is that there is no pressure on one person to supply all my needs. My husband Tim and I share an enthusiasm for environmentalism and all that entails, like electric cars, and veganism. With my fiancé John I enjoy watching science-fiction and we go to church together. “With Michael, I like to watch and support him playing for his local darts team at the Royal Oak, and we go to karaoke nights – which is possibly more embarrassing than admitting to polyamory! “Living in a house with more than one partner is something I have done for a number of years now. I suppose in many ways it is no different from living in a shared house with a group of friends, or family. All the usual things about whose turn it is to wash up etc. “Tim and John get on well, I suppose a bit like brothers, going on bicycle rides together for example. So it seems to work okay. They have something in common in that they both love me of course, and friends joke that I need two of them to keep me in-line. “Like in any relationship, insecurities can arise. Though in some ways there is less jealousy perhaps – no fear that a partner might cheat on me because why lie about it when having another partner is allowed anyway? Sometimes there might be a fear that a new partner is ‘better’ in some way than a current one, but good communication and offering reassurances allows that to be dealt with. “In many ways I have found that being in open relationships has forced me to communicate much better. I am very honest and open with my partners about my feelings and needs, in a way that I didn’t have the courage to be in previous monogamous relationships. So I think I have grown as a person, and have better and stronger relationships now. “Of course, all of that is possible in monogamous relationships, and I am not suggesting polyamory is in any way better, just different. But it works well for me personally. “I don’t have children, and have no desire to have children. I see no problem with bringing children into a polyamorous set-up though, because I have seen co-parenting work really well for other polyamorous groups. It is not something we plan though. “Mostly people have been great. They had lots of questions about it, and some family members needed reassurance that we were all happy and no-one was getting hurt. I find that I have a huge capacity for romantic love. I just naturally fall in love with more than one person at a time. So to settle down with just one person for the rest of my life just doesn’t feel natural to me. “People sometimes ask me if it means that I love my husband, or any of my partners less. And I say no. Perhaps it is a bit like how we love our children – when a parent has a second or third child, it doesn’t mean that they love their first child any the less. I think that romantic love is unlimited too. Time is limited of course. But I do not believe that love is. It certainly isn’t for me. “I get different reactions. Most people are interested and people often say ‘I wish my wife/husband would let me do that’. I sometimes get negative reactions too – I have been called a slapper or a slag. I think that negativity mostly arises because I am doing something a bit different and sometimes that can make people feel uncomfortable. “I have had women assume that I am a ‘man-eater’ and will try to seduce their husband – to be honest that just makes me laugh. I have also been told that what I do is ‘against God’s law’, though in fact there are many instances of multiple marriages in religious texts, and there are denominations of both Christianity and Islam that allow multiple marriages. “Mostly though, people are open to my lifestyle – they can see that I am honest with my partners and that we are all happy, so they see it as no-ones business but ours. “Polyamory is more widely known about now too so it is perhaps less of a shock to people now than it might have been, say, 10 years ago. “We all go out together. For example all going out for drinks for my birthday or to social gatherings and events organised by friends or trips to the cinema or whatever. Tim, John and I go down to London to see my family the three of us. And my sister’s children refer to us as ‘Auntie Mary, Uncle Tim and Uncle John’. “People have the idea that polyamory is all about s*x which isn’t the case. I don’t do one night-stands. I generally wait a month or so at least before becoming sexual with anyone I start dating. I suppose in that sense I am old-fashioned. My relationships themselves vary in how sexual they are – one of them being more platonic with not much more than cuddling and kissing. I suppose that, for me, is another good thing about polyamory – each relationship can find its own level in terms of s*x and with other things too. And there is no pressure on one relationship to tick all the boxes, so to speak. “Some of the biggest benefits of this way of living are those I have already mentioned, but I guess there is a financial benefit I haven’t mentioned – cohabiting with two of my partners makes things easier financially for us. So much so, that the three of us took the decision that I would reduce my paid-work-hours and do more unpaid voluntary work in our community. “The only negative for me really is dealing with other people being judgemental sometimes. But thankfully I am quite thick-skinned. And I hope that my being open about it with friends, and your readers, will help people understand polyamory better. “Maybe this will mean that there will be less judgement from strangers in the future, just as H0m0sexuality and transexuality have become more accepted in society as people have been more aware of them.” Mary is standing at the next local election for the Chorlton ward representing the Green Party. Source: Manchester Evening News
  2. RICK ROSS SHARES PRICELESS MOMENTS FROM HIS MINI-ME’S SWEET 16 PARTY Maybach Music Group leader Rick Ross made sure his daughter had an unforgettable Sweet 16 birthday party. The hip-hop vetera has shared some epic moments from her decked-out celebration. Ricky Rozay went to Instagram last night (April 8) with a slideshow of dope b-day pics.
  3. In 9ja it’s customary for friends to celebrate one another on their birthdays by getting them wet but what is rare is getting them muddied. As seen on Facebook, the user by the name Olubunmi Odunola shared images of herself being wet and muddied on her birthday by her friends and she captioned the post with: “See what #friends did to me in the name of #birthday……. #Hmmmmm i wish myself age with grace Thanks to you all for that But am still waiting for my gift.” The sultry images that shows her B.reast protruding through the wetness of her top is sure to get eyes popping and by the way, she’s still expecting her gifts cause being ‘John the baptist’ is surely not enough memory lol.
  4. Nollywood actor Adeniyi Johnson, who is an ex-husband to thee popular actress, Toyin Abraham, has shared the story of how he helped a vendor off the street. In his post on Instagram, the actor narrated on how he posted the story of the vendor on his Instastory and luckily someone reached out from America with the intention to help the vendor. Read What He Writes Below: M0ral lessons: favour found him where he’s working and not at home or begging alms.. God sees all effort no matter how little and he will reward in due season… God bless you for taking time to read and for deciding to help someone today more importantly as u decide to do something no matter how little henceforth… not all videos are meant to shade people and kindly spread love… SHALOM …. Thank you
  5. Kim Kardashian shared a never-before-seen photo from her shoot for Calvin Klein underwear with her sisters last year. Sharing with her fans on Twitter,she wrote ‘Found this pic I took in the bathroom on set of My @ calvin klein shoot #MyCalvins #ad,’
  6. A Nigerian man has taken to his social media page to share the pathetic story of how a woman brought three children to a restaurant and chose to be unfair with one. Larry Shola was out with his friend on a birthday celebration and while celebrating with his friend, he couldn’t help but notice four individuals – an adult and three children – who had some sort of inequity among them. According to Larry, the adult, a woman brought in these kids and treated one, said to be her housemaid, unfairly – she bought food for two children, her own kids and gave mere biscuits to her housemaid who hesitatingly ate them. A bewildered and annoyed Larry wrote on his page: See the photos he shared below:
  7. CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg’s net worth has plunged at about $5 billion after his company shares slumped following the Cambridge Analytica scandal in which data of 50 million users were reportedly misused. The company’s stock plummeted nearly 7 percent on Monday putting Facebook on track for their worst day in four years, Daily Mail reports. Zuckerberg, who is currently the seventh richest person in the world, holds roughly 400 million shares, or 16 percent, in Facebook. Following the drop, Zuckerberg is now worth an estimated $69.5 billion, according to Forbes. His company is facing mounting calls to testify after reports emerged that the firm, which has links to President Donald Trump’s campaign, gained inappropriate access to data on 50 million Facebook users. The reports have prompted a review by the company and expressions of concern by several US lawmakers who are demanding that Zuckerberg be grilled by the Senate Judiciary Committee. The losses in shares on Monday would be among Facebook’s biggest daily fall, including a broader market pullback in February. In January, when Facebook announced changes to its newsfeed, which it said would hit user engagement in the near term, shares fell 4.5 percent in one day. Facebook announced on Monday that it had hired a digital forensics firm to investigate the handling of data leaked to a consulting firm.
  8. A special assistant to the Governor of Bayelsa State on Social media has shared his inspiring story to discourage other job seekers from being idle and becoming a problem to the society. Abel Ifemi revealed how he hustled in a hotel after completion of his one-year mandatory NYSC programme and was receiving N19,000 monthly to sustain himself. The young man who urged people to start something first no matter how small it is – took to Facebook to share his story. Read below; I have no work to do that is why I am committing crimes. That is the most moronic excuse any young Man can give. After graduation in 2011 and successful completion of the NYSC in 2012, I returned back to my State with the hope of having a good Job, but as all expectations were shattered and cut off, after trekking the whole state with my big Brown file. My next point of action wasn’t to commit a crime by becoming a petty thief, but I kept hope alive and Started as a waiter in one of the hotels in town with 19k as my Monthly take home. 19k of a truth can’t sustain me for the Month,but It was the best option I took than to remain idle at home. The above picture was my first day in office at that time.
  9. A pretty Nigerian female couple/model has come under fire from social media users after a photo of her posing in the national youth service corps (NYSC) was shared online. At first glance, the photo looks rather innocent and very stunning but when you look closely you will discover that it is really racy and shows off her privates. Many Nigerians have tagged the photo as being disrespectful since the uniform is more or less a national symbol and should not be used in such a way that it brings dishonor to one's fatherland. Perhaps it was just a matter of time before photos of this nature start making the rounds as many serving female corps members have taken it upon themselves to redesign their uniform to their taste and rock it with just about anything.
  10. She is one of the world’s most photographed women. But Naomi Campbell still couldn’t resist sharing a snapshot of herself with boyfriend and grime rapper, Skepta, this week. The brunette beauty, 47, took to Instagram where she treated her 4.9million followers with the image. Showing the pair posing together on a king-sized bed in Paris’ Premier Suite of La Réserve Hotel, they can be seen flashing the flesh as they look into each others’ eyes. Specifically, Naomi was seen wearing nothing but a thing as she rests her hand on Skepta’s six-pack. Meanwhile, he lovingly places his hand on her face.
  11. It appears ace Nigerian music producer, Don Jazzy is missing the good old days with defunct Mo’hits crew when he dominated the music scene in Nigeria with banging multiple hits. Mavin records boss went down memory lane on social media, sharing photos from his time with Mo’hits crew. One of the throwback shot sees Don Jazzy and his former partner, Dbanj together in a cozy selfie with his kid brother, K Switch while another memorable shot dates back to his time with Wande Coal.
  12. Actress, Moyo Lawal shocked her followers after she shared the below photo on her page, and captioned it "Mortuary Selfie". Some comments on her page reads; endowned10: @moyolawalofficial you still look gorgeous anyways, I haven't seen anything you don't look good in, you'd even look good while taking a shit emeraldchinwe: This is because you 've understood the concept of this world @moyolawalofficial , we all are traveler in this world and we must return back home. Before I lost my mother who was so close to me, I used to be scared of an ambulance, the casket, signpost of a mortuary. But after her death I realized that we must pay this debt death, now I get close to an ambulance and other items associated with death and funeral. charitynelson79: I like u so much but this idea of snapping inside coffin....... Hmmmmmm, don't like it dear. dilivetbesong: Moyo this is not something you should put on public media. I love you very much but things like this are not good. Meanwhile, Moyo has debunked rumors about having butt implants. The actress who has been off the screen for some months had her fans talking after a new picture of her 'backside' went viral on the social media. Lawal on her Instagram page, @moyolawalofficial, shared a video of herself during a workout session in denial of fans speculations concerning her butt. Along with the video, she said: "No!!! I haven't done any surgery whatsoever or booty implants or taken booty pills or booty cream. " It was my mama who gave me. "However, I used to do a lot of squats and yes am back on my workout grind after taking a seven months break. "Anyways, the static squat is one of my favorite exercises.Actress Moyo1 "Yes, you can try it... " P.s don't do it, if you have weak knees or issues with your legs. "Keeping fit is a serious business o."
  13. A Nigerian lady identified as Sylvia Eguonor has taken to her social media page to share her testimony after revealing that she has converted from her bad ways after working for the devil for the past 25 years. According to the young lady, she was like Jezebel in the past until Jesus saved her as she said she's not ashamed to testify of her past.. Read her story below;

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